How to Calm Your First Date Jitters Quickly

We’ve all been there. That feeling that you’ve got butterflies on your stomach, afraid of saying something wrong and having a mix of excited, elated and scared at the same time. It’s something special, it’s a reminder we’re alive, but it’s a reminder that you’ve got to deal with your first date jitters.

Dating etiquette has changed throughout the years. Even my own standards for dating have considerably changed. To this, I say that there’s still things that have remained when it comes to etiquette, and lots of things have changed indeed.

Kicking-off with the butt of most things troublesome during the first date, the date planner should arrange for everything to be okay and the date should also know where he or she should stand. While it’s a common rule that “whoest asketh me outeth musteth maketh it perfecth” always stands, it’s also proper etiquette to forgive the date planner where he or she fails.

Always prepare for the best and worst. Heed what I said right here. Nothing’s ever perfect. And sometimes, it’s these imperfections that lead us to the right person.

Don’t give in too much to your nerves. Never answer one-liners. If you want him or her interested in you, say something. Don’t force him to fish it out of you.

The purpose of his or her questions is to get to know you better. Subsconsciously, people can project your personality through the way you talk. So if you talk with one-liners, you’re just a person who is trying to hide his or her true self. In short, you’re shutting him or her out and you’re not giving your date a chance.

If you feel the place is quite crowded and not your thing and you didn’t plan it, always be open with the fact that you want to move to another venue. Of course, be willing to answer for all the consequences that may happen should you two move to another venue (if you don’t like Chris Brown’s concert, for example, be the one to say that you will pay for both your tickets. Ouch, but hey, at least a clear conscience, right?).

Sometimes, it could be magic that it’s not just you who feels strangely about the place. But then again, if he or she is willing to move out with you, it means that he or sher still interested, being patient with you or want to know what you really like without considering the expenses involved (and other possible consequences).

Unless necessary, avoid talking about your exes. Don’t talk about them with pride, with joy, with thankfulness, with anything at all. Shut it.

This is an indicator that you’re still not over with your ex-lover and you want this person to just be a pastime. Nobody wants to be pastime. No one in their right mind would want to be that person who just became someone’s lover because it was convenient.

Listen to each other. This is the most important thing. Even if all things above don’t go very well, the one most listening is the one most memorable. Of course, you don’t have to listen all the time. You need to say something to keep up the rapport too.

It’s just that when somebody is listening to you, especially your date, you feel like you have someone you could depend on in the world. After all, dates are about finding that one person who would listen to you and is still interested in you.

 

Where To Date In London? I Think I Have Five Ideas!

Hello London! While most people will blast you out of the water because you’re quite an expensive place to live or have a vacation in, you’re still worth all the trouble. And what do most tourists like myself do in London while we’re here?

Well, aside from knowing more about its history, we tend to want to go on a date. Nothing serious and nothing sexual (sometimes).

So I’ve got here some five places I think would be perfect to go for dates! Tell me what you think about them in the comments below!

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  1. The Thames Southbank

How about something cheesy? Dates never run out of cheesy so might as well throw it out up front at once. Along the Thames is this beautiful southbank that’s filled will all kinds of activities.

Nope, the skateboard tricksters aren’t ruining the view for me. Their hyped mood raises the energy in the area. If someone ever took me to the BFI or the National Theatre, I’d really feel very special.

But then again, I love something simple most of the time. A trip to the snack bar, a bite out of a sausage, some few park-seated conversations or maybe even a picnic sounds great for me!

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  1. Hyde Park’s Pedalos

Row, row, row your date, not so gently, I must say. If Venice has its own love boat canal, this is the love boat canal of London (is this right my native readers? Is it possible that Hyde Park is your gondola canal?). ┬áBut there’s no serenading under the moonlight here.

Here, you could have the option of relaxing on a boat or go for an adventure with the pedalos. The Pedalos is a two-person, pedal-powered contraption that makes your activity with your date more intimate because you’ll be sharing the same sweat under the sun. But it’s all worth it if your date truly is.

Always consider, however, that your date may not want something physical. Hyde park is still good for a picnic you know. And by now you’re probably feeling that I have a thing for picnics.

  1. The Trocadero

In my age, going to an amusement centre is still up and go in my bucket list even if I’ve repeated it for several thousand times! The Trocadero doesn’t have rides but it’s got some awesome arcade machines and even free candy if you know how to win things.

This is a place for you daters who haven’t outgrown your college life. Spend some time in the arcade, have fun with air hockey, punch out something strong with the power glove or strength hammer. You might just have the best fun with someone that may possibly be your future partner!

  1. The Shard

Hoo-boy! If I ever wanted to have a very rich date, I’d like to be taken to The Shard (caps needed because it’s that awesome). Looking like a supervillain’s headquarters inside London, The Shard is spectacular from the outside as it is in the inside!

But if you do get inside, you get the best service imaginable for lodging in London. Despite its price, people tend to overbook the place. So reserve your room now if you plan to take your date to The Shard.

(recommended only for those going on their 8th to nth exponential number of dates.)

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  1. Hackney City Farm

We all love the farm life (secretly). The farm life is a relaxing place where you could always go on a picnic whenever you want and enjoy the wilderness (again with the picnic, Amanda?). You want live geese, sheep and goats in London? Welcome home!

The Hackney City Farm could be reached using the Hoxton or Cambridge Heath Overground. If you’re planning to go to something different and awesome, or just have some great time with the wilderness, here’s where both of you need to go.

The Four Effective Steps In Talking To Women The Best Way Possible

Women. As a woman myself, I know we can be extremely difficult to talk to and when you do, extremely difficult to please (unless we have a crush on you).

Talking to women involves knowing about their current stature. It is possible that the woman you’re about to talk to just had a recent divorce. It’s also possible the woman you’re talking to is a lot older and more experienced.

But most men fear that they’re not the ideal man for the woman they’re talking to. That is the mistake in itself. If you’re not confident enough with yourself, you will have no progress in talking to women.

So behold, my go-to guide for talking to women before you even go on an actual date!

  1. Be Yourself

It’s cheesy. It’s been used so many times, but the line just be yourself is the best line you could ever bring with you when coming up and talking to a woman. If you ever tried to be something else, you’ll just be fooling yourself that you like this woman.

Make it a point to just be yourself and talk to her the way you talk. Because when she refuses you, it’s likely that you two aren’t really a match and she has tastes for something else, as well as you do too.

Part of being yourself is being honest. Tell her what your work really is. Women appreciate men who come up front and tell them of their blue-collar work. I should know; I am quite fond of these people because it’s curious to see perspectives from different sides.

  1. Funny, Catchy Dialogue

A word of advice, don’t try to be funny if you really aren’t funny. But if you’re one to make puns, it’s fun to hear them, but not all the time. Men didn’t grow up to be like Chris Rock talking in a hilarious manner with hilarious dialogue.

We want some humour that is relevant to you and us. It doesn’t have to be jokes or some sour pick-up lines. It can be about the situation. It can be about yourself (just don’t beat up yourself too much or we’ll feel a psycho vibe coming along).

Again, funny is subjective. Be careful because you may also offend us.

  1. Let Her Tell Her Story

If you’ve got a conversation going and there’s some good dialogue coming along, let us talk about ourselves. Sure, you could talk about how awesome you are or your band is, or how you nailed a good accomplishment the last year, but don’t overdo it. One impression is enough for us.

Allow us to talk too. We’ve got our own stories to tell. Sometimes even some stories we’ve never told other people.

  1. Ask Us Out

If you just wanted a conversation and you had us going, we’d be expecting you to ask us out the next time. If you don’t well, that would be kind of weird (or we’d think you prefer men too). We know what men want when they talk to us. No, it’s nothing sexual, but we know you’re interested and that’s good for us.

Dating 1 oh Whatever. I’m Here To Give My Say!

Hey I’m Amanda Azalea!

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And yes I’ve already given my introductions in the about page right here.

But that introduction kinda felt like it was impersonal, like I was endorsing this blog like a business. Truth be told, it is my business, but it doesn’t mean everything has to sound like I’m selling you my services.

So a little bit about me. And no, I’m not giving you my location. Let’s just say that I’m in London right now and I’m enjoying the nightlife. The pubs, the nightlights, everything that the city could offer me with its neon lights and somewhat delectable dishes.

Yes, I know that some of you out there would tell me that you might say London isn’t one of the world’s culinary centres and that would be France. But I’d like to say that’s the best thing about me.

I see the good in many things

This is the first thing you should always look at when you’re dating someone. Always look for something good.

Most men and women I’ve talked to about dating and their failures often stem from one thing; they’re all looking for the ideal man or woman. They want these qualities. Heck, if I even ask, they would have a list of what is ideal for them.

The truth hurts. The ideal man or woman does not exist.

This does not come as a surprise for many of us but sadly, our subconscious will always tell us that we must find these qualities or else it won’t work.

This is much trouble with women. Not to be an antagonist with women right here, but most women won’t give men a chance because their first impressions lack so much character and everything else in between that they’d phone the guy before they enter the venue and see how they look like from a distance.

When you engage in a date, the first thing you should always understand is that this guy or girl isn’t the perfect one for you. Instead, they’re someone who might hold something special and you might have some sort of connection with them.

Of course, you will say that it’s not easy to make a connection all at once with a person especially if it’s just your first date. But things wouldn’t happen, or you wouldn’t find out if they’re the perfect one for you if you don’t give them a chance.

How do you give a person a chance, you say? You try to look for the best things about them. Try to compliment people for once. Compliment your partner on what they’re wearing, the way they portray themselves, basically anything you might find that is awesome and true at the same time.

Sometimes, you just have to give it a shot. If they’re really something else during the first date, maybe it’s just the venue. Try again. Maybe there’s another chance.

Don’t let the power of technology whereas you could just Tinder your way into the perfect gentleman or lady. Always try to give people a shot and there, you’ll find what you’re looking for.

More of these kinds of tips right here in my website. I hope you stick around and enjoy what I can offer you!