Video chat gives conversations a personal touch that’s distinctly more real and connecting than other technology options currently available, such as cell phones, email and texting. Aside from webcam chat, you may be also interested to try using chat lines to find a long term partner. But there are also distinct challenges you don’t face with those other methods. So before you log on, yell “action!” and start filming your own personal romantic comedy, consider my list of 5 do’s and don’ts below.
DON’T turn your webcam on unless it’s reciprocal.
Exercise caution if a dating prospect wants to you to appear on camera but won’t do the same, especially if you don’t know the other person very well. Both of you should be using your cameras to communicate. It’ not fair for you to broadcast yourself without your date reciprocating, regardless of any excuses given.
DON’T expect to have a video chat on the fly.
Make specific dates to log in so you’re both prepared. Spontaneity is great with a text or call. You can quickly contact your date to check in or convey information fast. But for many reasons, from wanting to be in the right mood to making sure you look your best and setting the right ambience, webcam dates are best when they’re planned.
DON’T engage in the video version of TMI.
You might be more likely to reveal information you’re not ready to divulge just yet since the connection is visual and happing in real time. Not only is this a common-sense suggestion for those who are newly dating, but also it’s a safety issue for those who are screening a prospect using this method.
DON’T show your chat partner anything you wouldn’t want to see shared in videos or photos later on.
If you think “sexting” is dangerous, think about the lure of getting an intimate peek at each other’s assets during a webcam chat. Be aware of the fact that your date can capture screen grabs of you at any time, possibly in compromising positions, and save them for posterity. Just like you shouldn’t send anything in an email you wouldn’t want to see on the front page of the New York Times, don’t show your date anything you wouldn’t want to see there, either. I urge you to not do anything.
DON’T get carried away and project romantic fantasies onto your webcam date.
After a few sessions, you may think you’re madly in love with the man or woman in your video screen, but that’s just an attractive vision to whet your appetite until you get to know each other in person. Nothing takes the place of time spent together face-to-face to find out if you’re truly a couple that’s meant to be.
When it comes to using webcam chats for dating, hopefully, what you see will be what you get. Live chats won’t ever take the place of in-person dates for assessing your romantic chemistry, but it’s still a worthy tool when used wisely. Think of it this way: if a picture’s worth a thousand words, surely a webcam chat’s worth at least 10,000!