We’ve all been there. That feeling that you’ve got butterflies on your stomach, afraid of saying something wrong and having a mix of excited, elated and scared at the same time. It’s something special, it’s a reminder we’re alive, but it’s a reminder that you’ve got to deal with your first date jitters.
Dating etiquette has changed throughout the years. Even my own standards for dating have considerably changed. To this, I say that there’s still things that have remained when it comes to etiquette, and lots of things have changed indeed.
Kicking-off with the butt of most things troublesome during the first date, the date planner should arrange for everything to be okay and the date should also know where he or she should stand. While it’s a common rule that “whoest asketh me outeth musteth maketh it perfecth” always stands, it’s also proper etiquette to forgive the date planner where he or she fails.
Always prepare for the best and worst. Heed what I said right here. Nothing’s ever perfect. And sometimes, it’s these imperfections that lead us to the right person.
Don’t give in too much to your nerves. Never answer one-liners. If you want him or her interested in you, say something. Don’t force him to fish it out of you.
The purpose of his or her questions is to get to know you better. Subsconsciously, people can project your personality through the way you talk. So if you talk with one-liners, you’re just a person who is trying to hide his or her true self. In short, you’re shutting him or her out and you’re not giving your date a chance.
If you feel the place is quite crowded and not your thing and you didn’t plan it, always be open with the fact that you want to move to another venue. Of course, be willing to answer for all the consequences that may happen should you two move to another venue (if you don’t like Chris Brown’s concert, for example, be the one to say that you will pay for both your tickets. Ouch, but hey, at least a clear conscience, right?).
Sometimes, it could be magic that it’s not just you who feels strangely about the place. But then again, if he or she is willing to move out with you, it means that he or sher still interested, being patient with you or want to know what you really like without considering the expenses involved (and other possible consequences).
Unless necessary, avoid talking about your exes. Don’t talk about them with pride, with joy, with thankfulness, with anything at all. Shut it.
This is an indicator that you’re still not over with your ex-lover and you want this person to just be a pastime. Nobody wants to be pastime. No one in their right mind would want to be that person who just became someone’s lover because it was convenient.
Listen to each other. This is the most important thing. Even if all things above don’t go very well, the one most listening is the one most memorable. Of course, you don’t have to listen all the time. You need to say something to keep up the rapport too.
It’s just that when somebody is listening to you, especially your date, you feel like you have someone you could depend on in the world. After all, dates are about finding that one person who would listen to you and is still interested in you.